Learning from older generations is useful and you can receive some valuable advice, but there are also times when you know that older people are wrong. The things they advise you to do might have worked when they were your age, but now it’s different and you have to adapt to the changing times.
Reddit user Nursejoyscuntysister wanted to know what advice isn’t beneficial and asked, “Millennials of Reddit: What’s the worst ‘Baby Boomer advice/wisdom’ you’ve ever been offered?” People had a lot to say and showed with which boomer ideas they disagree with a passion.
This is not the first time Bored Panda has talked about boomers’ advice that doesn’t work anymore, and if you are interested in what out-of-touch wisdom they are telling the younger generation, you can click here after you’re done upvoting this list and commenting your own stories.
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I was once told by a baby boomer “If you want a man to stay with you, you’ll have to pop out a baby” (or words of that effect). I told her straight up “Any man who would stay for our baby, but not for just me, isn’t a man who I’d want staying in the first place”.
For f***sakes, is it really that unusual for me to want to be loved for who I am, and not for my ability to procreate? Why would I want to stay with anyone who sees me as nothing but a human incubator?
“You don’t deserve to make a livable wage at McDonalds, get a real job”
“What, are you too good to work at McDonalds? Grow up and stop being entitled and do what you gotta do.”
The lab tech at one of the schools I teach at is a retired old fella. Comes in maybe 2 hours a day, real early in the morning to set up labs for the day. Basically has the “job” for his own entertainment.
One morning he caught me in the hall and somehow got into telling me how I really ought to find a job with a good pension. Apparently he worked for some commercial chemistry research lab and retired early once he qualified for their pension program. Then, him and some buddies took some of their early retirement money and bought a big parcel of land. They arranged to have it incorporated into a town, that they ran, then sold off pieces of it for housing developments.
So, he’s going through this little history lesson in how the economy used to work and I just stand there and nod. In the back of my head, it dawns on me. He thinks I’m an adjunct by choice. He thinks I teach part-time at three different schools with no advancement potential and minimal benefits because I like it.
Hey Boomers, the reason why us god dammed Millenials aren’t doing things the way you used to is that those things don’t exist anymore. There’s no career track jobs in science with just a MS. There’s no more salary for life company pensions. I can’t just go “buy me some land” and flip it for a profit.
Talking to my dad recently, he was going on about “participation trophies.” When I pointed out that we wouldn’t have received said participation trophies had his generation not invented them, his response was: “Yep, that’s another problem with your generation. Always blaming your faults on other people.”
I love being told “be grateful you /have/ a job!”
Then they look on in horror as I explain that I can’t afford to live on my own while working over 40 hours a week. I don’t get vacations. I don’t get sick days. I get absolutely no paid time off, even for s*** like Christmas. No time to pursue things I enjoy, no money to see a doctor about my deteriorating jaw.
But it’s not their problem, you know? They get to walk away from the conversation.
“You know, your generation doesn’t understand that you have to buy a house as young as possible to pay it off quickly”. No old man, we get it. We’re broke as f*** making 1/3 of what you do in the same work place.
My mother told me to, “Just get a job. Tons of places are hiring.”
Though, she has come to understand the struggle now as she spends all day applying to jobs and not getting a single call back.
“Go outside, get some fresh air! Your mental illness is just in your head! Laugh and smile more, you’ll be fine ???”
From a family member. 4 years of therapy in and I still struggle daily.
“You can’t get a job in management out of college, you have to start in the mailroom.”
Uuuh… To get a job in the mailroom you need five years experience. That or work for free because internship. And when we have five figure student loans to repay we can’t exactly work for free cause unpaid internships don’t put food on the table or gas in our cars…
“You’ll have little ones of your own someday.”
No the f*** I won’t. Those little bastards tore up my house over the holidays and the mom did nothing but nap on my couch.
My first retail job, any time I complained about customers or coworkers to my father I would get, “You just have to suck it up. It builds character, and you’ll always have something you don’t like about your job or coworkers.” A few years ago, he lost his help desk job, and nobody wanted to hire him on for an IT position when he’s just a couple years shy of retirement age and doesn’t have a degree. After a couple years of being unemployed, he realized the gig was up, and took a part time job working in a grocery store across the street from the one I had in high school.
Now, whenever I go to visit him, I always hear something like, “Can you believe this b****, shikitohno? I just finished building a goddamn corn pyramid, has to be 7 feet tall, and she wants one from the center on the bottom, because she says she can tell those are the freshest. Can you believe it?” No, dad, not a clue at all what you’re talking about, but you’re character sure seems to be growing.
I guess I’m on the old side of the millennials, but I had numerous people tell me not to go into computer science and instead go into some other engineering field because computer scientists didn’t make good money, wasn’t a good job, not a good fit, etc. Glad I didn’t listen to any of them as I make a really good salary now. Why the heck would I take advice on entering a high tech field from people who can barely use a computer?
My boss recently told me my generation was entitled, and began quoting various articles on how we all think we’re special and exempt from criticism etc
AS I was shoveling a dead rat out of the doorway.
Marry your own people out of culture and god…
Little did they know I was a Muslim turned Atheist and hated how the women in my country were treated as house wives instead of actual people.
Not really advice but my neighbor was complaining about how useless and lazy millennials are after I snowblowed their driveway today. Only, it used to be their snowblower. They misused it, broke it, and I fixed it, and I’ve been doing their driveway ever since. But whatever I’m just some lazy 20-something full time student with a job and enough time to turn wrenches in the garage.
Dad told me when I was young that interracial relationships would never work. He said that “there’s a reason the black birds are with black birds and the red birds are with the red birds. Its just nature.” I’ve been with my ethnically different girlfriend for a long time now. Probably the best person I’ve ever met.
I was getting my masters degree and we had a guest lecturer come in. He had been CEO of a small company for many years. He basically told us that he stumbled into the job right out of college because he didn’t know what to do and gave it a shot. They gave him the assistant CEO position because he had been the assistant manager at a movie theater for a summer. And then 2 years later he became the CEO.
He was basically telling this entire class of people getting their advance degrees in the hopes to get his position that he got his job on a whim 30 years ago.
My mom encouraged me to walk in and give my resume to the manager at our local grocery store because “seeing you face to face makes a difference” thinking it would help. I was given a physical application by a cashier, basically begged to see manager, he showed up, I gave him my resume, shook his hand, he said thank you but looked annoyed at being interrupted and went back to work. Few weeks later they hired a new cashier, she was the cousin of one of the people that worked there. welcome to the new job market, millennials.
My friend’s dad got a fantastic job right out of college (with an unrelated bachelor’s degree) by LITERALLY GOING INTO A RANDOM BANK DOWNTOWN AND REFUSING TO LEAVE UNTIL THEY GAVE HIM A JOB.
Can you even imagine? Can you??
Don’t go to a trade school, that’s beneath you.
Thanks, Mom. This Film degree from a Liberal Arts school is really paying the bills.
Get at least a master’s degree so you can be successful. Sure, a degree helps, but coming out of school with a massive amount of debt is not the greatest thing to do. My parents owned a home when they were 25 and 23. They didn’t have to worry about having 40k in student loans.
The kicker? I work for my parents and they decide my salary. They know damn well I can barely afford rent, much less a house. Also, my degree has nothing to do with my job, but I had to have it.
they still think you can put on your best suit and walk right into any company, shake the CEO’s hand and look him right in the eye, and start the next day.
everything is online and entry level positions require 3-5 years experience with no hope for advancement and s*** benefits (if any) and below average salary
“but just start a business if you cant find something!” whatever that means
If your wife makes more than you. She will eventually become to independent and leave you. This from a 65 and 70 yr old coworkers who have stay at home wives. They also tell me that they don’t do house work out of principle. Outside work and repairs only.
When I was in high school looking for a job my grandmother told me to just go to places and fill out applications; she told me it was useless using the Internet to look for a job. This was in 2008 and every place I checked for a job had an Internet-based application.
EDIT: No one seems to quite understand. You can argue going into a store or calling back is useful to being known or improving your chances at getting a job at some companies. That’s great. According to my grandmother, it was pointless to use the Internet as a means of finding available jobs. If I were to follow her advice I would go into countless places and ask if they were hiring there.
First thing you should do is always buy a house.
Houses are not the surefire, idiot-proof investment machine they used to be in decades past.
“Have you tried going in in person and giving them your CV?”. This was when I was looking for graduate schemes with multi step application processes, usually CV upload > online tests > phone interview > interview/assessment day > sometimes second interview. Me walking into the building with a piece of physical paper would not have helped at all but my parents thought it was my fault that I didn’t have a job yet because I didn’t do that.
I hardly fit the requirments to be a millennials, but i had huge interest in game devopment but was discouraged saying computers wont get you a job.
Boy oh boy do i like to remind them of that as i now make soundtracks part time and play test games on the side and the entire world is one big computer now.
My government teacher just told me it was hard for him to sympathize with people who have to work at McDonald’s (we were talking about raising the minimum wage) when he was able to put himself through college while working and studying full time. He said it was still possible for anyone that wanted to put in the work.
I’d just got out of economics, where my teacher had told us it wasn’t possible, and made us calculate the cost of our preferred college or trade school and write up our financial aid options. Weird getting almost word for word contradiction that soon from two teachers.
I was born in ’98 I’m not sure if I’m a millennial though.
Go to college and get a degree. Employers will be throwing good paying jobs at you. Total bulls***. Baby Boomers told us this c*** and they’re refusing to hire us. F*** that.
“Trust the banks” Republicans are trying to deregulate banks to let them use customer funds to speculate on the stock market….Which was a major cause of the great depression.
“You should have kids before it’s too late.”
I’m 26, excuse you?
“Buy a house so you can refinance it and make some money.” From my aunt with a serious shopping addiction who’s refinanced her house 3 times and is in serious debt.
You have a job, there’s no reason you shouldn’t have a house! However the average house here is 400k, and you must have 20% cash to put down. Super easy in an entry position right?
Marry first for money, then you can marry for love in your second marriage. ? They’ve all been divorced at least once.
I have student debt. It’s my only debt. $24,000 in loans. No credit cards, no car payment, no outstanding bills. I pay about $800 a month in loans, and any extra money I have at the end of the month. My parents constantly tell me I’m bad with handling money, and have tried to get me to file for bankruptcy several times because “it’s so much easier”.
“drop out of local community college and RUN, don’t walk to most expensive state school in the country. A degree from a community college isn’t worth anything.”
Naturally this exchange occured while I was working so I hid my “f***-off-and-die” face behind a polite smile and said I would consider it.
“Join the army, so your family can have a future.”
Well done. Well f*****g done. The family left. And now, seventeen years later, the only way I can get a job is if I do NOT tell people I was in the military.
They tell you to live while you’re young because these are your best years. And then they tell you to start saving up for your 401k as early as possible.
What do they think “live while you’re young” means? Something compatible with saving?
My ultra-Conservative father once posted an article on my Facebook Timeline written by a trans man about why he chose to vote Republican, and it was basically “GAYS NEED TO JUST FIT IN WITH SOCIETY AND STOP TRYING TO GET ALL OF THESE RIGHTS.”